emotional neglect = emotional abuse?

now that i've joined the ranks of SAHM, i can't help but wonder... is our self worth measured by fancy job titles and the size of our pay cheques? i've read about it before and now i'm experiencing it. modern men lose all respect for their wives when they decide to stay home and nurture the young. they think that they are the only ones 'WORKING'. why not swap roles and experience it for yourself? aren't SAHM contributing to the society by spending quality time bringing up the next generation? am i wrong to want to give the best to my baby?

i have been feeling emotionally neglected for a while now - no word of thanks or praise for all that i've done. no flowers, presents, not even a note on special occasions. no sensitivity nor tenderness when i feel down. no support nor understanding when i'm going against the grain. not even gentle probing on what is wrong. easy to brush me off with a ' i-cannot-handle-emotions' attitude, isn't it? just go off to sleep and hope the problems just go away when the sun rises. i'm sick and tired of being treated like this. i have emotions and i have needs just like every other human being you come into contact with.

and like any other woman, i hope to be loved, romanced and even better, put on a pedestal. does being a mother make me less of a woman now? am i not attractive now that my breasts have become functional? is my expectation too high or did i just make the wrong choice?

to me, emotional neglect = emotional abuse... both are as tormenting to the soul!